Molyneux’s Mother Issues

I’ve looked more into criticism of Stefan Molyneux’s ideas, and his behaviour. It seems obvious to me that he holds deep resentment towards women, and especially his mother. He was raised by a single mother, and apparently abandoned by her, which is unfortunate. But what is more unfortunate is that he seems to wish to project this abandonment to everyone else too, or at least to other men.

Molyneux says that women who have a child without having a husband are abusive, and it’s “incredibly selfish and destructive thing to do”. I was raised by a single mother, so I can honestly say Mr Molyneux can go fuck himself, since my mom did a decent job. Should she have given me and my brother to the state when I was five, the time my parents split up? Perhaps get a late abortion?

But how can I insult this loving man by telling him to go fuck himself, since he’s so nice as not having killed his mother, because the bond between parent and child is so strong. Molyneux said about his mother: “That’s why she’s not fucking dead now [because she’s his mother]! The bond was strong enough that I didn’t fucking kill her, and that’s my forgiveness.” So magnanimous. I don’t know what his mother did to him, but as far as I know she didn’t sexually abuse him or anything. Maybe she beat him, but I’m more inclined to believe Stefan is just fucked up, and his mother was a normal human being who did some mistakes.

Molyneux is not content simply blaming his mother for his problems, but wishes others blame their moms too. In one video a caller is complaining his father is manipulative, but Molyneux twists it around to make the caller focus on his mother instead. Without actually knowing the full details of problems of the caller and his parents, Molyneux makes an universalist statement that “women are responsible for creating families”. Molyneux thinks its “bullshit” the caller holds less resentment towards his mother than his father. He’s obviously projecting his own traumas onto others.

Women who are being financially supported by men are “estrogen based parasites”, according to Molyneux. “Stef” made an hour long video on the death of Robin Williams. Molyneux ends up blaming Williams’ ex-wives being greedy that lead to his alleged suicide.

I think it’s normal for heterosexual men to hold some resentment toward women due to various disappointments, as well as adoration. And women probably feel the same way about men, but Molyneux is clearly overboard in his misogyny. I hate to use the word, since it’s over-used by feminists and other Cultural Marxists, but it seems appropriate here.

Stefan Molyneux is nearly a 50-year old man who has mother issues. How about you grow up, instead of airing your dirty laundry in front of everyone? Moreover, although he is married and has at least one child, he seems to have some issues with sex. He’s clearly not satisfied in that department. Otherwise, he wouldn’t be this hostile toward women: “I don’t know how to make the world a better place without holding women accountable for choosing assholes.” He doesn’t sound at all like a wussy geek complaining that girls like macho jocks… Been there, done that. It doesn’t help to be a whiney bitch about it.

Molyneux is the one who should be getting psychiatric help, instead of offering his advice to others. Talk about the blind leading the blind.

EDIT: In this video Molyneux completely contradicts  his claims that adopted children do as well as biological ones. He says that people who do what is necessary to have a child, but not what is necessary prevent having the child without having capacity to raise the child is not smart. And this lack of smartitude is genetically hereditary, or something.

Links:

Our Mother Abandoned Us: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKHoupXfeic

Stefan Molyneux: “If you don’t have a husband, to keep the child is abusive.”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EpExyO6eb7Q

Stefan Molyneux Explains Why He Didn’t Kill His Mother: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Ha4ea53UGI

Molyneux twists attention away from caller’s father to his mother: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQIokL5uY0s

Stefan Counsels Daughter to Be an Estrogen Based Parasite : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Pr-znYYjHs

The Truth About Robin Williams: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=diyuAXzN7yo

Misogyny Theater: Stefan Molyneux in “Women Who Choose A**holes.” : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M4Xm6YW2gNw

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8 thoughts on “Molyneux’s Mother Issues”

  1. > Molyneux says that women who have a child without having a husband are abusive

    Molyneux points out how, statistically speaking, a fatherless upbringing is the single biggest indicator of a whole host of childhood (and later adult) dysfunctions ranging from criminality, gang involvement, unwanted teenage pregnancy, depression and general ‘dropping out’ and low achievement.

    Take black youth crime for example. It appears on the surface that black kids are more prone to violence and criminality than white kids. Yet if you factor in the higher rate of absent fathers in black communities the crime rates balance out. It’s not that black kids are more criminally inclined, it’s that they are being raised in single mother households.

    Of course there are those who buck the trend and an adverse childhood can often spur people on to great things later in life. Not all single mother upbringings will produce rapists….. but nearly all rapists had single mother upbringings. All other things being equal there really is nothing positive to be said about raising a child without a father, and so it is perfectly reasonable to implore women to make wise, sensible, moral decisions when it comes to choosing a partner and starting a family.

    What you are doing is called ‘white knighting’ which is disrespectful to women because you are defining women as inferior to men, and thus less morally responsible for their actions. Molyneux respects women which means he treats women as full status adults who are responsible for their actions – just like men are! If a man walks out on a mother and child we call him a scoundrel, but god forbid anyone call out a woman for choosing, one way or another, to exclude a father figure from the lives of her babies. Yet it’s the same thing. It’s the SAME THING.

    If ‘wilful single motherhood’ is perfectly cool, then so is men walking out on their families. In both cases a parent is choosing to deny their children a father. If a man walks out on his family and says “It’s OK I was raised in a single mother household and I turned out OK” is that an acceptable excuse?

    With respect, how do you know Molyneux’s experienced warped his outlook on this issue, but yours did not warp yours? Surely both have to potential to lead to bias for/ against women?

    There is no doubt that a fatherless upbringing is depriving the child of a father (obviously), and science shows that fathers are an essential component of upbringing for both boys and girls particularly in that critical 0-6 age range when our gender identity is being laid down and our basic core personality is being set. For example empathy is mostly learned from the father, not the mother.

    Molyneux does not condemn all single mothers, and he understand that life can be ‘messy’. He condemn’s women who make terrible choices in men who either disappear into the sunset or are kicked out soon after she gets pregnant ……. or women who outright CHOOSE to get pregnant with the FULL INTENTION of raising the child without a father figure, perhaps just as a way to claim extra welfare.

    Many women do indeed have babies just to get extra welfare. I’m sure you agree that this is a terribly selfish thing to do. Basically these women are forcing EVERYONE ELSE to pay for that child via the state. These children are going to grow up with a mother who has an incredible sense of self-entitlement and zero sense of responsibility or work ethic. She literally is OK about forcing everyone at gunpoint to pay for her lifestyle. So it’s no surprise that if she raises a daughter she will likely turn out to be a self-entitled, bratty, narcissistic feminist… and if she raises a boy he will end up in a gang doing exactly what her mother does – demanding money from other people at gunpoint. Black kids caught up in gun crime are not copying computer games or movies – they are just copying the strategy of their single mothers demanding welfare!

    If fathers are necessary or even just beneficial and women deliberately deny their children fathers then those women are – by definition – neglecting their children, just as if they deny them vegetables or exercise. Neglect is a form of abuse.

    > So magnanimous. I don’t know what his mother did to him….

    Then why are you passing judgment. And if Molyneux said all that about an abusive father would you leap to his defence also? Somehow I doubt it. So you are just ‘white knighting’ again.

    > Maybe she beat him, but I’m more inclined to believe Stefan is just fucked up, and his mother was a normal human being who did some mistakes.

    More white knighting. Stefan is fucked up by being beaten or neglected or whatever as a small child – and that’s HIS fault. But his mother who was at the time a full status adult is just “a normal human being who did some mistakes.” So you are basically saying an adult woman has LESS responsibility for her behaviour than a small male child. Molyneux would be first to say he was ‘fucked up’ by his upbringing, and that is why he made sure to get therapy and sort his shit out. His mother presumably never thought to get therapy to sort her shit out. But you will still judge her as the innocent party sitting on the moral high ground, right? Simply because she is female.

    > Molyneux is not content simply blaming his mother for his problems, but wishes others blame their moms too.

    Are you saying parents can’t be held accountable for how their children turn out?! So even if a parent abuses, neglects, assaults, abandons their child it’s wrong to blame them for fucking up the child?

    What exactly are you trying to say here?

    Suppose a father abuses his little girl and completely fucks up her sexuality for life. I’m guessing you would have no problem blaming the father. But if a mother abuses/ neglects/ abandons a male child there is no question of blaming her. That would be unfair, right? She’s just a woman after all. And women should never be held accountable for their actions.

    I’m getting the impression you either believe – or you desperately WANT to convince yourself – that women/ mothers can do no wrong and/ or should not be held accountable for their behaviour.

    > Molyneux makes an universalist statement that “women are responsible for creating families”.

    It’s a generalisation. And it’s true. In general women select a mate from a range of willing and eager male suitors. And women absolutely control if or when the babies come along. A woman in her twenties is surrounded by men wanting to be her mate. If she selects some asshole that really is her fault. The entire dating and courtship rituals that have been going on for thousands of years are designed for women to ‘test’ men and evaluate men’s suitability and caliber. Women have overwhelming control when it comes to selecting a partner and starting a family with him. You are denying reality by denying this.

    > Women who are being financially supported by men are “estrogen based parasites”, according to Molyneux.

    You phrased that in a way which makes women passive. How do you (and how does society) view MEN who expect women to financially support them in return for little more than sex and light housework?

    Thanks to the relentless demonisation and belittling of men, a lot of men feel it is their duty to serve women just to gain acceptance into society. A lot of men work flat out to put food on the table and pay the bills while their wives live lives of leisure. But pointing out the exploitation is unfair to women, right?

    > Molyneux ends up blaming Williams’ ex-wives being greedy that lead to his alleged suicide.

    I think he pointed out that this was a factor. Have you ever been forced to pay MILLIONS every year to an ex?

    > Molyneux is clearly overboard in his misogyny.

    Hurray! We finally got to the M word. Treating women as equal full status responsible adults is misogyny!

    > I hate to use the word

    But you still did anyway.

    > Stefan Molyneux is nearly a 50-year old man who has mother issues.

    Well, no. He got himself some therapy do deal with his mother abandoning him as a kid and he seems to be free of mother issues. Taking issue with irresponsible, self serving, abusive women is NOT the same as having mother issues. You’re basically saying that Molyneux was hit by a drunk driver as a kid, and he still speaks out against drunk driving….. therefore he must have unresolved ‘issues’. It’s a really bad argument.

    > Moreover, although he is married and has at least one child, he seems to have some issues with sex. He’s clearly not satisfied in that department. Otherwise, he wouldn’t be this hostile toward women

    The only reason why someone would hold women to basic moral standards is if they aren’t getting enough sex. It’s an interesting argument, I’ll give you that.

    > “I don’t know how to make the world a better place without holding women accountable for choosing assholes.”

    Makes sense to me.

    > He doesn’t sound at all like a wussy geek complaining that girls like macho jocks… Been there, done that. It doesn’t help to be a whiney bitch about it.

    He is not complaining though. Complaining would be “I wish women chose me instead of assholes” But he is not saying that. He is happily married and has a daughter.

    You are implying that when men talk about women’s moral standards and general behaviour must be motivated by sexual frustration. But it could just be that they are treating women as full status adults who are equal to men and therefore just a accountable for their actions. With respect, this concept of women being treated as grown ups appears completely alien to you.

    > Molyneux is the one who should be getting psychiatric help, instead of offering his advice to others. Talk about the blind leading the blind.

    But he did put himself through therapy. Have you?

    1. Your reply seems longer than my post, so I’m not gonna answer every point you made. I have no interest to get into any long-winded debate with you. I could be wrong in my interpretation on Molyneux, and perhaps you do know him better than me, but that does not change the fact that this is how I see Molyneux.

      I am not White Knighting. There’s a difference between White Knighting and pointing out actual misogyny. The word is often misused, but Molyneux’s behaviour does seem like genuine misogyny to me. I agree that Molyneux’s mom is to a great extent responsible for how he has turned up, but Molyneux is a grown man, almost two decades older than me. I find it quite disturbing that loads of people are getting personal advice from this middle-aged man who basically has expressed desire to kill his mother. I can understand such behaviour from a teenager, but not from a man much older than me.

      All of the defooing stuff and encouraging people to cut themselves off from their families is in my opinion an obvious projection of Molyneux’s incapability to deal with his own family. It is unfortunate, and most likely his parents are partially responsible for this, but that does not excuse him trying to pass off his trauma to his followers.

      1. Misogyny means hatred of women. You have not provided any evidence that Molyneux hates women.

        Holding women to moral standards and advocating responsible and non-destructive behaviour from women (particularly mothers) is not the same as hating women. If anything it is the opposite of hating women.

        Do you understand that viewing women as grown adults and holding them to te same moral standards as men is not misogyny?

        > I am not White Knighting. There’s a difference between White Knighting and pointing out actual misogyny.

        Yes and you gave no actual examples of misogyny which is why I said you were white knighting.

        An example of misogyny would be something like Molyneux saying “I hate women”.

        > The word is often misused, but Molyneux’s behaviour does seem like genuine misogyny to me.

        But he makes it very clear that he does not hate women.

        > All of the defooing stuff and encouraging people to cut themselves off from their families is in my opinion an obvious projection of Molyneux’s incapability to deal with his own family.

        What Molyneux advocates is hardly controversial. He recommends people in abusive or destructive family relationships consider removing themselves from those relationships for a period of time in a controlled way (ie making sure you have somewhere to stay and a way to support yourself) and alongside having therapy to sort out whatever underlying issues there are.

        What is your specific objection to that advice?

      2. I’ve provided evidence that Molyneux hates women, if you only looked at the links at the end of my post. It may not be conclusive proof, but it is evidence.

        Like I said previously, I have no desire to start any kind of debate with you. I will not comment on these Molyneuxian absolutes, since I do not think talking about them will lead anywhere. You seem to be using the same kind of reasoning Molyneux does. It does not go anywhere. There is no rhyme nor reason at sight, it is merely a form of social dominance, trying to assert one’s views as superior to others without actually proving anything.

        I submit the following video as evidence. Molyneux evades addressing Anarchopac’s criticism and rambles on around the issue. Molyneux is spends 30 minutes avoiding the fact that he does not understand what a value statement, or value judgement, is. Molyneux’s philosophy is nothing but sophistry and waste of everyone’s time.

        Anarchopac vs Stefan Molyneux:

        http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Value_judgment

        You seem to be exhibiting behaviour similar to Molyneux, i.e. using his “philosophical” methods of arguing, which I found dishonest and manipulative, therefore I believe it is impossible to have an honest discussion on these matters, since it is apparent you only wish to convolute the issue further and make me doubt my cognitive abilities, as is evidenced by the ending statement in your first comment: “But he did put himself through therapy. Have you?”

        I question your honesty and intentions, as I do Molyneux’s, so I have no interest in engaging in any discussion with you. You can think me cowardly or whatever. I don’t care.

      3. > You seem to be using the same kind of reasoning Molyneux does

        Yes it’s called adhering to reason and evidence AKA philosophy.

        > I have no desire to start any kind of debate with you. …./ …… Molyneux’s philosophy is nothing but sophistry and waste of everyone’s time.

        I think you might be projecting a little here.

        > it is apparent you only wish to convolute the issue further and make me doubt my cognitive abilities, as is evidenced by the ending statement in your first comment: “But he did put himself through therapy. Have you?”

        Yes I wish to ‘convolute’ your blanket and sweeping assertions with facts and reasoning. And yes I think YOU are the one with mother/ women issues. You repeatedly stripped women of their agency and denied women are responsible for their actions. You characterised adult females as LESS responsible for their behaviour than male children.

        You seem to be on a crusade to defend the honour and innocence of women (white knighting) rather than accept that women can be just as fallible or immoral or screwed up as men – because women are, after all, equal to men.

        I think you might find some therapy useful.

        > I question your honesty and intentions, as I do Molyneux’s,

        That is clear. And the reason is because neither of us put women on pedestals. both of us treat women as full status adults who are every bit as equal to men, and as equals deserving of the same degree of criticism and scrutiny that men routinely receive.

      4. I am not claiming to be write about everything. I am just criticising your claims and providing some observations, arguments and facts to support my criticism.

        Claiming I am some kind of ‘know it all’ is just a sophist’s tactic to avoid debating the issue and responding to the criticism.

  2. Awesome article. The web is slowly and daily ripping old Moly a new one….justifiably so. Dude’s a weak ass projecting his mummy issues on weak sheeple.

    At 50 yrs of age he really needs to get the fck over it…btw, my moneys on his kid eventually deFOO’ing him…..wouldn’t that be the epic karma.

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